I am often presented with questions about decision-making and navigating through various situations in life. One common issue that people face is determining when to take control and when to go with the flow. In this article, we will explore this topic and provide insights to help you make better choices.
Understanding “Going with the Flow”
Before we delve into the decision-making process, let’s define what we mean by “going with the flow.” At first glance, it may seem like an easy and effortless approach to life, where you do whatever you want whenever you want. However, if it were that simple, we wouldn’t be discussing this question in the first place.
Typically, the question arises because there is a desire to take control of a situation, but it doesn’t work out as planned. This act of taking control involves projecting your willpower onto a current situation, attempting to mold it to your desired outcome. Essentially, it’s an attempt to force something to be the way you want it to be.
Assessing the Feeling of Control
Now, how do you know whether you should take control or go with the flow? A crucial factor to consider is how it feels when you try to take control. Pay attention to your emotions and energy levels during these moments. Ask yourself:
– Does it feel good when you try to take control?
– Do you feel energized or drained after attempting to exert control?
On the other hand, think about how it feels when you go with the flow. Does it feel easy and effortless, or does it evoke a sense of uncertainty or fear? If there is fear, it might be possible that there is an inability to deal with not being able to predetermine the future. By consciously noting these feelings, you can gain valuable insights into which approach is most suitable for a given situation.
Listening to Your Intuition
Decisions involving control versus going with the flow are not solely based on logic and reasoning. Intuition and gut feelings often play a significant role in guiding us towards what is right for us. However, these require a higher level of self-awareness. Therefore, it is essential to develop a connection with your intuition and listen to its whispers.
When faced with a decision, take a moment to tune in to your inner voice. What does your intuition tell you? Notice how your personal values are expressed in this situation.
Seeking Professional Guidance
While self-reflection and intuition are valuable tools in decision-making, there may be instances where seeking professional guidance can provide further clarity. Coaches are trained in helping you get a fresh perspective on your situation.
Taking control does not always guarantee the desired outcome, just as going with the flow does not necessarily lead to chaos. By being open to change and evaluating each situation individually, you can make decisions that align with your values and bring you closer to your goals.
